Is It Spring Yet?

It is only made it to seven degrees today with wind chills of minus twenty five.  The sun at least was shinning today.  Laney goes out side for about a minute at a time.  She does not like the cold.  People need to remember to keep their pets inside.   They get frostbite as we do and they can die from the cold.  I saw a neighbor's  cat outside yesterday evening and I chased it home.  I hope it found a warm place.

It looks like I'm going to be hibernating for awhile until it hits the thirty two degrees.  It will probably feel like a heat wave.  The schools have been closed this week, because it is too cold for the children who have to walk to school and  the students who stand at the bus stops.  My husband has had to go out to work everyday, as life goes on in the work world.  Thank goodness for warm cars.

My outing yesterday left me chilled to the bone, and I felt like I could not get warm.  My husband laughs at me sometimes,  because I wear a hooded sweatshirt in the house.  I put the hood up when I can't get warm.  The furnace is running non stop, but you can still feel the cold air.  I am dreading the bill when it comes, as I imagine their are millions of people that will also be dreading that bill.  Please mother nature bring us some warm air.

I guess for now, I will admire my flowers and dream of the beach.

Life is beautiful !!

Elizabeth:)

Everyday Can Be Filled With Love

Winter has become an unwelcoming nuisance these days.  It has been bitter cold with wind chills below zero since Saturday.  I ventured out today to have lunch with friends only because the sun came out.   Everyone is tired of the extreme cold air.  I guess you could say we have the February blues.  We are grateful that we are not buried in the New England snow.  Our snowfall has been small in comparison to the rest of the country.  The roads however have been ice covered making travel treacherous. 

I hope everyone had a nice Valentine's Day.  We stayed in our warm house and watched the blizzard winds whip snow through the air causing white outs.  My husband surprised me Friday evening with a beautiful bouquet of spring looking flowers.  They were perfect for lifting our spirits and hoping that spring will be right around the corner.  Anything that we can do to bring life into the house helps chase away winter.

This past year I made it my passion to bring that love of Valentine's Day into our lives every day.   My life is  filled with gratitude, happiness, and love.  It is what I wanted and I have received it.  Some days are still hectic and things go wrong, but the positive thinking diffuses the power that bad things have on us.  They are only bad if we let them live in our mind.  I still write love notes to my husband and he writes me back.  We have quite a collection and they have filled our hearts with love and laughter.  I am finding it easier to let go of the negativity in life and I am enjoying the moment that I am living in.  I am grateful to be sleeping peacefully now and I awake to a new day with a clean slate.  So grateful for all the love that I have right now in my heart. 

The past is something we can not change, but we can learn from our mistakes.  We can forgive others that tress pass against us and forgive our self.  Forgiveness will help you move forward in a positive direction.  It does not mean that what someone did to you was fair or that you will forget their words, but forgiving them helps everyone to heal.  The mind is a powerful thing, so fill it with happy thoughts. 

Life Is beautiful!!

Elizabeth:)

Love Yourself and The World Will Love You

What is the real definition of love and how do we know we are loved.  It is easy to say we love someone or something, but how do we get that admiration from someone that we all as humans desire.  According to the low of attraction we get what we think about the most.  Perhaps we get the things we think about the most,  because we start doing things that attract what we think.  If we think we are lonely then we start to isolate ourselves from others.  If we think we are sad, then we walk around looking sad.  If we think we are not worthy of the pleasures we desire, then we become miserable with our self and we are not happy.  In my own search to find a peaceful happy existence I started to notice how unhappy people are.  Most people can recall and tell stories of things that are negative about themselves and what they can't do, but where are their stories of the their desires and dreams and who they think they are.

Perhaps people are afraid of talking about themselves and what they want, because they fear others may judge them.  It is hard to ignore the negative things people say to us and we start feeling ashamed of our self  based on someone's thoughts.  I grew up learning that we were to be seen and not heard and to live our life as our parents wished.  I see now that it is all right for me to live my own dreams.

We learn how to live from our parents, however it does not mean we have to blame them for our miserable life of unhappiness as adults.  We do have the power to change.  Just as we learn anything in life, we can learn a positive dialogue with our self to change our life script and find happiness.  I am learning that dialogue and it is attracting good things into my life.  I am learning first to love myself enough to practice gratitude everyday and look at the positive side of everything I am experiencing.   Loving myself  means to me taking care of my health and giving myself the things that make me happy.   It was scary to step out of a comfort zone that I had placed myself in and I had to ignore some people who said that I should be quiet and be happy with the life I had.  The people who told me you can't do this or that are no longer in my immediate world.  I have released the negative people from my life.  They are no longer in control of my life script.  The people that are a part of my life are people that I am now comfortable with to share what I want for myself.    They know what I need and they encourage me and love me for who I am.

Love is what healed not only me, but my family.  I started by saying loving things to myself and then I started writing love notes to my husband,  because it is what I wanted and I got them back in return.   I was letting the world know what I needed.   I started saying I love you to my children, because it is something I wanted to hear, as I did not hear it growing up.   It has been coming back to me and it has made me very happy.    I also say I love me too, when my husband tells me he loves me.  He would always say it to me when I told him I loved him.  He smiles and laughs when I say it.  I let him take credit for teaching me to say I LOVE ME TOO! 

Love is a human experience we all want and desire.  It starts with loving our self and letting others know what we want from relationships.  No one can read our mind or control it.  We are the only one that has the control to be happy everyday.  Perhaps if we practice loving our self everyday then we wouldn't have to wait for Valentine's Day for someone to validate us.  There are five days until Valentines Day,  so spoil yourself and it may bring a lot of happiness in return.

Life is beautiful !!

Elizabeth:)

Look At Your Life and How It Affects Other People

Valentine's day is getting closer.  I was thinking about how nice it would be to celebrate the symbolism of the day every day of our life.  We can celebrate love and gratitude for living every single moment of our life.  It is not dependent on a marked day on the calendar.   The world would be a wonderful place if everyone realized that being happy and feeling loved starts with their own thoughts.   We can choose to make everyday Valentine's Day.

When I started studying the language and thought process of gratitude three years ago, I started becoming aware of negative thoughts in my mind and also the negative thoughts of others.  This theory is based on what ever you are thinking becomes reality.  You can test it by simply laughing about funny thoughts and if surrounded by people they will start laughing.  They may not know what your laughing about and they may think you are strange, but I bet it will make them laugh.

I had to realize that just because other people had bad experiences with cancer and thoughts of doom that they were not my thoughts.  I did not have to own them.  I was always worried about others judging me if I felt happy during what they thought was a difficult time.  I really understand now the courage that I have to own my own thoughts.  The thoughts of others is not my concern.  It does not mean I have no compassion for people that are fighting to live.  I would much rather project my happiness on them and make them smile and laugh than to be somber.

I would like to share a story about how our thoughts can paralyze us and keep us from being happy.   I hope this story will help others see that we must speak for our selves and see how our own actions and words affect others. Communication is a two way street of talking and listening.

The Valentine's Day in 2011 was a learning experience for me and it eventually brought me to owning my own thoughts.  It has made me aware of the fact that we can make our own decisions on how we want to be treated and that people should not assume anything that is relayed through another person without you being present.  We have the right to speak about how we want to be treated.

My husband was a cancer patient and the journey we embarked upon was a difficult one that changed us for the better.   We given a code of ethics on how we should treat the medical team and told to study it. I did and could probably recite it.  I started wondering if the staff knew much about it, because some people were not following it.    We were paying dearly for medical services to help my husband and we had requested to speak with our doctor several times before Valentine's Day.   We wanted to discuss our concerns about some information that was incorrect in regards to my husband.   It never happened, the patient advocate office never returned our calls or acknowledge a request that we had made.  We never knew what was said about us.

I blamed myself for not speaking out on Valentine's Day and owning my own thoughts. My husband also did not speak up as he was in denial and shock. He was very vulnerable as any patient is.  The doctor whisked into the room and proceeded to give a lecture on the prognosis of my husband's medical problems.  I tried to stop the doctor, but was asked to be quiet.  I was very angry at myself for not speaking up, because my husband did not want to know his prognosis.  We let a seed of despair be planted in my husband's and my mind.   It was one of the most somber moments of my life as I looked at my husband.  There was no offer for us to possibly speak with a social worker or someone who could let us express our feelings. The doctor exited room swiftly and made what I felt was an inappropriate comment  So, there is the reason that I started to have great anxiety and eventually panic attacks.  We let the seed of what someone else planted in our minds grow.  It was growing weeds that eventually took over and choked out life for my husband and me.   It caused us both to doubt everything good and destroyed any trust we had in the relationship with our health team.

We did forgive the doctor, but it took a lot of healing and working to override that negative day.  We tried to extend much gratitude and blessings to the doctor and team.  We finally realized after hearing some more negative thoughts from the doctor that we needed to move on.  We needed to take control of our life and be happy.  It is not our concern what he thinks.

Good communication skills are a must when dealing with patients.  So as we see presentation of negative news can affect us, but we do have the power to change those thoughts. It takes letting ourselves be vulnerable and reaching out to people who can help us forgive and heal.

Doctors need to ask their patients directly what they need and not assume based on what others say or think.  All I can say is that my husband and I have forgiven ourselves for letting the weeds grow and the person who planted them.  We picked our selves up and we moved on by planting seeds of hope and love back in our life.   We took back the power to live.

Life Is beautiful !!

Elizabeth:)

It's World Cancer Day

I awoke today to beautiful sunshine and warm weather.  It has been a great day to have fun with friends.  It is also World Cancer Day!!  I have spent the day celebrating life and I am looking forward to spending the evening with my hero husband.  He is a cancer survivor and that is worth celebrating.

I am sending much gratitude and love out to the world.  I think we all need to think some positive loving thoughts as the world seems very unstable.  I can hardly watch the news any more.  I am going to focus on being grateful and pray for peace around the world. 


Life is beautiful !!  God Bless all Cancer Patients.

Elizabeth:)

You Have To Want To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone To Live Your Dreams

Valentine's Day will be here very soon and the thought of being loved by someone is a wonderful feeling.  I never thought much about Valentine's Day until three years ago.  For me it was just a silly day that children celebrated and I didn't think much about it.  An event in 2011 changed those feelings and was the beginning of changing my life.  I knew that I was always going to think some unpleasant thoughts about the day every year after 2011.  It was going to be a trigger for some unpleasant thoughts and I had to stop it.   Nine months later an introduction to Louise Hay, other inspirational writers, and God's love for me, helped me to change my thoughts about Valentine's Day.  They call it the law of attraction.

The mind is a powerful thing.  We live inside our minds and all we do in life begins in our mind.  Some people are trapped by their own mind, because they listen to all the reasons why they think something is not possible, or something is bad.  They are listening to their own dialogue of why they can't have the life they want.  Our perceptions of what we think daily about how we should live are based on what we have learned from our parents, teachers, and the experiences of living.   A lot of the dialogue we hear in our minds is negative and it seems so easy to listen to the negative.  If we can live by these negative thoughts then why aren't we living by positive thoughts.  We don't have to listen to the past or negative dialogue if we want to be happy and have our dreams come true.  We have to start learning a new dialogue.  We have to rewrite our life script.  Empty you mind of all the awful things you have heard.  You have to want to change yourself and it does require effort on your part.  It does not just magically happen.  It starts with changing your daily routine and your thoughts about what you want.  We all have dreams and the people that are living those dreams told themselves I am going to make them come true and started to take the steps to achieve them.  It may have meant they had to break their normal routine and feel a little scared, but they were moving towards fulfilling their dreams.  We sometimes feel real uncomfortable when we start breaking our routine and doing things differently.  The reward of the change can be the greatest thing that happens to you. It helps you know you are worthy and gives you confidence to love yourself.

We need to keep moving forward and not listen to those who are telling us we can't live our dreams.  It is our dream and we are the one who has to do the work to make it come true.  The Nay Sayers and those who criticize us are stuck in their own mind.  We need to own our own thoughts not theirs.  It is our life and not theirs.

I have been studying for several years to change the dialogue that played in my mind.  It is not an easy fix when you have grown up hearing you can not have this or that, and you are not worthy of having the pleasures you want.  I was hearing that dialogue a lot and yet I had accomplished things in my life, but I never felt really happy.    I had rebelled against a lot of what I was taught as a child.  I had to realize that it was all right for me to have my happy dialogue.

I had managed to plant positive seeds of encouragement into my children and have reminded them to never say I can't.  I did not want them to hear the negative things I heard.  It has worked. They are living their dreams.

I finally have reached a place now in my mind where my happy script is running.  It has taken daily work to find a bright spot in every situation, but the reward has been the greatest uplifting thing I have every done.  I will keep this dialogue of happiness going, because the mind believes what we want it too.  

I had to work at changing my own thoughts about myself.  The dialogue I had about myself was not what I wanted and I have worked everyday to change it.  I am now starting to reap the benefits of devotion to the daily gratitude and filling my mind with positive thoughts about myself.  They are over ridding all the bad things I heard.  It is a great feeling of freedom when you finally can grasp that the bad things that played in your mind belonged to someone else.   They do not belong to me.  I am who I want to be.  I am the only one that gets to define who I am.  I am worthy of anything that I want in life.

This blog has been one of the things that I stepped out of my comfort zone to do. I trusted myself to publish some intimate parts of my life to the public.  I hope you can trust yourself to have the power to have everything you dream about.

I will share some uplifting gratitude quotes over this year and I hope they will help people stop listening to the negative dialogue that they play inside their mind.  You have the power to create your own happy thoughts.  Start by smiling at someone.  It is a powerful gift that God gave you and will bring many smiles back to you.  It helps shift your thoughts to happy ones. 

I tell you later how Valentines Day has become an important day in my life

Life Is beautiful !!

Elizabeth:)