Love Yourself and The World Will Love You

What is the real definition of love and how do we know we are loved.  It is easy to say we love someone or something, but how do we get that admiration from someone that we all as humans desire.  According to the low of attraction we get what we think about the most.  Perhaps we get the things we think about the most,  because we start doing things that attract what we think.  If we think we are lonely then we start to isolate ourselves from others.  If we think we are sad, then we walk around looking sad.  If we think we are not worthy of the pleasures we desire, then we become miserable with our self and we are not happy.  In my own search to find a peaceful happy existence I started to notice how unhappy people are.  Most people can recall and tell stories of things that are negative about themselves and what they can't do, but where are their stories of the their desires and dreams and who they think they are.

Perhaps people are afraid of talking about themselves and what they want, because they fear others may judge them.  It is hard to ignore the negative things people say to us and we start feeling ashamed of our self  based on someone's thoughts.  I grew up learning that we were to be seen and not heard and to live our life as our parents wished.  I see now that it is all right for me to live my own dreams.

We learn how to live from our parents, however it does not mean we have to blame them for our miserable life of unhappiness as adults.  We do have the power to change.  Just as we learn anything in life, we can learn a positive dialogue with our self to change our life script and find happiness.  I am learning that dialogue and it is attracting good things into my life.  I am learning first to love myself enough to practice gratitude everyday and look at the positive side of everything I am experiencing.   Loving myself  means to me taking care of my health and giving myself the things that make me happy.   It was scary to step out of a comfort zone that I had placed myself in and I had to ignore some people who said that I should be quiet and be happy with the life I had.  The people who told me you can't do this or that are no longer in my immediate world.  I have released the negative people from my life.  They are no longer in control of my life script.  The people that are a part of my life are people that I am now comfortable with to share what I want for myself.    They know what I need and they encourage me and love me for who I am.

Love is what healed not only me, but my family.  I started by saying loving things to myself and then I started writing love notes to my husband,  because it is what I wanted and I got them back in return.   I was letting the world know what I needed.   I started saying I love you to my children, because it is something I wanted to hear, as I did not hear it growing up.   It has been coming back to me and it has made me very happy.    I also say I love me too, when my husband tells me he loves me.  He would always say it to me when I told him I loved him.  He smiles and laughs when I say it.  I let him take credit for teaching me to say I LOVE ME TOO! 

Love is a human experience we all want and desire.  It starts with loving our self and letting others know what we want from relationships.  No one can read our mind or control it.  We are the only one that has the control to be happy everyday.  Perhaps if we practice loving our self everyday then we wouldn't have to wait for Valentine's Day for someone to validate us.  There are five days until Valentines Day,  so spoil yourself and it may bring a lot of happiness in return.

Life is beautiful !!

Elizabeth:)