Sometimes I want to write and find myself trying to find the right words to explain just how I am feeling. There are days when I can write something right off the top of my head in a few minutes and other days when I know what I want to say, but I struggle to put on the page. Effective communication is a way of getting others to hear our voice and understand what we really mean. Writing is a method of communication and without non-verbal cues such as body language and tone of voice. We must learn how to write to so our reader knows exactly how we feel.
Capturing an audience of readers is what a writer is ultimately looking for. I started my blog to entertain my family and leave something for them to read. I was journaling my life with Laney and then of course it turned to my husband's journey with Cancer. The journey was not always pleasant, but documenting it has helped us learn a great deal from it. I hope it has helped my children and others realize that life has it's ups and downs and heartache, but we keep learning and moving forward knowing that there is life after unpleasant experiences. I hope too that people realize it is not shameful to seek help from health care professionals and therapist who can help heal the mind and body. Finding someone to listen, validate your feelings, and build a trusting relationship takes courage and strength, and in the end the reward is peace and happiness for yourself. It may take you seeing a couple of different health care professionals to find someone who you can build a trusting relationship with, but remember you are worth it. It is your life and your happiness that is important.
As time passes by, we experience new life events and the trauma from the Cancer lessens. Our family's thoughts have been shifted to new adventures in life. It does not mean we have forgotten the past events and we may even have triggers that bring a fear of the Cancer returning, but we are able to focus more on the days before us. I have read that usually five years after a frightening life event the mind no longer focuses on the event. I am finding this true as we are now approaching that five year mark. I hope and pray that we continue on this path of living and enjoying life.
Anger over life events lessens as distance grows. It is like a raging fire that a burns out when their is no more fuel. The life event burns out when we are no longer having to focus all of our energy on it.
It has been nice now that my husband's doctor visits have grown farther apart. The mind doesn't focus on them daily and we are able to view life as being healthy. We appreciate everyday and have learned about the simple aspects of life that bring us great joy.
Your body is your temple and you need to take care of it and live everyday to the fullest. Love yourself and take care of yourself and the rest of life will fall into place. I have learned that I am the only person who can help myself. It took a lot of courage to admit I was hurting and something was wrong with my thought process, but it lead me in the right direction to being healthy. Never let anyone shame you and make you feel that you are not worthy of being heard. Fear is only alive if we don't speak up and learn to trust our self to get help. Other people can not hear the silence of our pain. We must speak up in order to be heard. Sometimes we need to keep speaking until someone hears us. I have learned to believe in myself, and I know that the pain of others belongs to them.
Life is beautiful and communication is important to live a happy life. Let yourself be heard !!
Love, Elizabeth:)
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