I woke up today with a kiss from my husband and sunshine streaming through the window. I needed the boost of happiness. This early winter weather had started to make me feel a little blue. I don't like the bitter cold and gloom. It is suppose to make it up to fifty degrees by Sunday. My husband and I are going to try and walk outside if the rain holds off. We went walking a the Mall last night, as we both felt like we were becoming a blob of mush from lack of exercise. It is going to be a long winter and I am trying very hard to keep myself busy to pass the days away.
It is hard to believe that this year has almost slipped away from us. We are very grateful that my husband continues to feel well. It has been four years now since his cancer diagnosis. We are feeling very grateful these days. The emotional pain is slowly diminishing and we are looking forward to some goals in our life. I am proud that we both have changed for the better and we have come away from this journey with much courage, love and strength. We have lost some friends along the journey and gained some new ones. There are people who come and go from our lives, it does not mean they are awful people. Perhaps their own life script has taken them to a new journey in life.
Everyone has to do what makes them feel comfortable and happy in life. With all the emotions Cancer brings into our life, it is hard not to let our anger and deep emotions surface. We are all complex beings and when we feel that our life expectancy is threatened the mind and neurological system reacts. The body has the capability to protect itself from life threatening stress and sometimes the body gets stuck in a cycle of fear. It does damage to the the body organs and the brain. I wish we could stop the stigma that people are crazy.
We need to understand that there are treatments and therapy to help people cope with stress. I have been speaking up for people who have traumatic events in their life and encouraging them speak up and tell their doctor that they need help to cope. The mind is part of the body and just as we treat high blood pressure, we need to treat our minds. We are not afraid to say we have high blood pressure or other diseases. Yet there is still a stigma that if we tell someone our mind is not working correctly we are labeled crazy. Please stand up and stop the stigma. We are all faced at times with traumatic events and having the courage to tell someone without being scrutinized would help a lot of people who walk around depressed and feeling alone with their personal struggles.
I have done a lot of research on doctors and nurses who also feel great emotional pressures while practicing their profession. The suicide rate is very high amongst the health care professionals and medical students. We need to bring awareness to the public and people should not be scrutinized or called wimpy, because they need professional health care for their mental disabilities. We are all human and no matter how smart or educated we are, there are times in life that we just can't cope any more. I always remember a little saying from my own childhood. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy today. Perhaps doctors and nurses need to make a point to stand up for themselves and take time off to sleep and have some fun. As the saying goes, when we make an effort to change, the world around us changes. Patients will appreciate the the doctor who admits that they are burned out and that they need to take time out. If their colleagues don't agree then perhaps it is time for the doctor to stand up for their self and change so others will understand.
People don't like change because it is scary and we get in comfort zones. I have been there, but I am now glad that my journey with my husband 's Cancer disrupted my life. All the things that happened good and bad have brought about positive changes and made me fight for my own health and made me realize that my happiness comes from me and no one else. If your feeling blue, overwhelmed, or struggling with the day to day stress, stand up and tell someone. If they scrutinize you walk away and keep speaking up for yourself, because you are the one who knows how you feel. You deserve to be happy and feel healthy.
I love you my husband always and forever!!
Life is beautiful !!
Elizabeth :)
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