My favorite movie is THE SOUND OF MUSIC by Rodgers and Hammerstein. I still remember my mother taking me to see that movie on the big screen. Little did she know that it was going to remind me to always chase my dreams. I remember thinking that I could watch Julie Andrews in the opening scene run up to the top of the mountain over and over. It is a beautiful scene and she seemed like she was on top of the world and could conquer anything. It is a beautiful love story that I have watched many times and have never grown tired of seeing it.
My favorite lyric from one of the movie songs is about following a rainbow until you find your dreams. I try to remember everyday to keep my own dreams alive and keep moving forward. Our dreams don't necessarily turn out exactly as we see them in our mind, but when we can hold onto them they give us hope to keep living.
I have many dreams that are still to be found at the end of the rainbow and I am chasing them with my husband. We together are blessed to have followed a rainbow that has brought us to a peaceful place in life and continue to find new rainbows. No life is without challenges, but everyone can follow a rainbow to their dreams. It maybe a little scary and we may not understand the obstacles in the way, but never giving up will be the greatest reward of all.
Laney followed her rainbow to find us and I hope all her dreams have come true. She seems to be at peace and has brought much love and peace to our world. I guess we both followed the same rainbow to find each other. I hope she is around to follow many more rainbows with us.
As the rain stops and the sun shines, look to the sky and follow the rainbow to your dreams. Life is beautiful !!
Elizabeth
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
Wednesday, July 24, 2013
Cancer Caregiver
I just read the statement a good cancer caregiver is . It was posted on the MD Anderson Cancer Center Face book page. Although I have not had cancer, I have been thrust into the cancer caregiver position more than once over the years. Several of my family members have had cancer, including the love of my life, my husband. I will answer this statement from my perspective of being the caregiver.
The job of cancer caregiver is not one that we choose to have when it is to care for someone we love passionately. It is a job we are thrust into with no interview, no orientation, and no clue of the emotional impact it will leave on our life. When you are in love your fight flight mode kicks in and you do everything you can to ease the heartache and pain your soul mate has. Sometimes you don't know what to do and you feel if you have lost control of life. It is the hardest job I have ever had. I have taken care of thousands of people over the past 32 years as a registered nurse and the job of spouse caregiver has left me exhausted, heartbroken, and feeling all alone. It has given me an understanding of the heartache my patient's families have endured.
As a nurse I was able to to be empathetic to my patients and yet their emotional impact did not remain with me. Sometimes I connected with certain patients because it was just meant to be. We all connect with certain people in life regardless if they are ill. It's the law of attraction. Regardless of how you become the caregiver it is a job that will test every aspect of your life. I suggest you fasten your seat belt, because your adrenalin is going to kick in full force.
So a good cancer caregiver is whatever you think it should be. My husband has told me that I am his angel. I have at times wondered how he felt that way about me, especially when my claws came out
and I morphed into someone who was going to lash out against anyone who was going to cause physical or emotional harm to he or me. It was that fight flight mode to save him. The same fight flight mode took a hold of him to get through the chemotherapy treatment. It was as if we had gone to war against cancer. At times I think we were at war with with each other. We said things to each other that did not sound like two people in love. We have been able to hold on to each other because I believe that love conquers all. I chose to remember why we feel in love and realize that life is not without challenges.
I believe that a good cancer caregiver is someone who can stay strong and work through all the heartache. For me it was surrendering and admitting that I needed help to accept emotionally what I can't control. I am learning that no matter what anyone else thinks I am allowed to cry and have my own feelings. I can be grateful for my husband's survival and yet allow myself to have moments when I cry, because I am so overwhelmed. I am working on taking care of my own needs. I realize that I have met a challenge in life that has helped me appreciate everyday and love myself.
I can't speak for my husband in regards to what a good caregiver is. I do know however that I get to choose to love him no matter what he thinks or others. And, he gets to choose that I am his angel. I hold onto something he said 15 years ago to me on the eve of his first chemotherapy treatment. He said, " No matter what happens to me, I will love you always and forever." He is still here to remind me of that, as he continues to leave me love notes everyday.
I know there will be days ahead where my claws will surface and the fight flight mode will kick in. It can be expected when in love. So if you see me and I don't seem quite right, remember that the claws are a disguise, because according to my husband I am an angel.
"I love you always and forever!" Life is beautiful!!!
Elizabeth
The job of cancer caregiver is not one that we choose to have when it is to care for someone we love passionately. It is a job we are thrust into with no interview, no orientation, and no clue of the emotional impact it will leave on our life. When you are in love your fight flight mode kicks in and you do everything you can to ease the heartache and pain your soul mate has. Sometimes you don't know what to do and you feel if you have lost control of life. It is the hardest job I have ever had. I have taken care of thousands of people over the past 32 years as a registered nurse and the job of spouse caregiver has left me exhausted, heartbroken, and feeling all alone. It has given me an understanding of the heartache my patient's families have endured.
As a nurse I was able to to be empathetic to my patients and yet their emotional impact did not remain with me. Sometimes I connected with certain patients because it was just meant to be. We all connect with certain people in life regardless if they are ill. It's the law of attraction. Regardless of how you become the caregiver it is a job that will test every aspect of your life. I suggest you fasten your seat belt, because your adrenalin is going to kick in full force.
So a good cancer caregiver is whatever you think it should be. My husband has told me that I am his angel. I have at times wondered how he felt that way about me, especially when my claws came out
and I morphed into someone who was going to lash out against anyone who was going to cause physical or emotional harm to he or me. It was that fight flight mode to save him. The same fight flight mode took a hold of him to get through the chemotherapy treatment. It was as if we had gone to war against cancer. At times I think we were at war with with each other. We said things to each other that did not sound like two people in love. We have been able to hold on to each other because I believe that love conquers all. I chose to remember why we feel in love and realize that life is not without challenges.
I believe that a good cancer caregiver is someone who can stay strong and work through all the heartache. For me it was surrendering and admitting that I needed help to accept emotionally what I can't control. I am learning that no matter what anyone else thinks I am allowed to cry and have my own feelings. I can be grateful for my husband's survival and yet allow myself to have moments when I cry, because I am so overwhelmed. I am working on taking care of my own needs. I realize that I have met a challenge in life that has helped me appreciate everyday and love myself.
I can't speak for my husband in regards to what a good caregiver is. I do know however that I get to choose to love him no matter what he thinks or others. And, he gets to choose that I am his angel. I hold onto something he said 15 years ago to me on the eve of his first chemotherapy treatment. He said, " No matter what happens to me, I will love you always and forever." He is still here to remind me of that, as he continues to leave me love notes everyday.
I know there will be days ahead where my claws will surface and the fight flight mode will kick in. It can be expected when in love. So if you see me and I don't seem quite right, remember that the claws are a disguise, because according to my husband I am an angel.
"I love you always and forever!" Life is beautiful!!!
Elizabeth
Sunday, July 21, 2013
Summer and Heat
The weather has taken another change of direction. We went from record breaking rain fall to record breaking heat indexes of 105. It has been quiet outside as everyone spent most of the week inside trying to stay hydrated and cool. We went walking a couple of evenings after dark, but still came home soaked with perspiration as the humidity was high. It is cooler today, but the rain has returned again for a couple of days.
The increase in mold spores outside due to all the rain has caused our allergies to flair up. Achoo!! Even Laney has been having sneezing attacks. She is sneezed like eight times in a row last night. I think she scared herself and it was quit comical.
Laney is spoiled and loves the air conditioning as much as we do. I wonder how we survived as children growing up with no air conditioning. My own children never experienced sweating all night in a 80 degree house with just a fan. I even remember my first car had no air conditioner. The only thing blowing was hot air and road dirt coming through a rolled down window. There's not anything like fresh air on a hot summer day. LOL!
We did get our exercise today despite the muggy air. Hubby and I road bicycles on a scenic bike trail. We managed to do eleven miles before I melted. Thank goodness for Gatorade and the air conditioned car We saw another deer today. Of course, I forgot my camera again.
I am resting now in the air conditioning and yes Life is beautiful!!
Elizabeth
The increase in mold spores outside due to all the rain has caused our allergies to flair up. Achoo!! Even Laney has been having sneezing attacks. She is sneezed like eight times in a row last night. I think she scared herself and it was quit comical.
Laney is spoiled and loves the air conditioning as much as we do. I wonder how we survived as children growing up with no air conditioning. My own children never experienced sweating all night in a 80 degree house with just a fan. I even remember my first car had no air conditioner. The only thing blowing was hot air and road dirt coming through a rolled down window. There's not anything like fresh air on a hot summer day. LOL!
We did get our exercise today despite the muggy air. Hubby and I road bicycles on a scenic bike trail. We managed to do eleven miles before I melted. Thank goodness for Gatorade and the air conditioned car We saw another deer today. Of course, I forgot my camera again.
I am resting now in the air conditioning and yes Life is beautiful!!
Elizabeth
Tuesday, July 16, 2013
Enjoying Summer
Laney has enjoyed resting in the sunshine which has finally blessed us. The rain has finally dried up and the heat is here. It now seems like summer with blue skies, fluffy white clouds and steamy heat. My flowers are beautiful and growing very well. I saw Laney today smelling the flowers on the patio. She was so cute sniffing at the blooms. I was worried she might get stung by a bee, as they too were enjoying the blooms. I wish the flowers were here all year round as they are very pleasing to the eye.
My husband and I were finally able to ride our bicycles on a bike trail through the woods. We were surprised by a deer that was resting by the side of the bike path. The deer was startled by us and took off running into the woods. I wish that I had my camera with me. It would have been a great picture of the deer as it was very close to us. The deer looked so large at the close proximity. I suddenly felt very small. Thank goodness it did not charge at us.
We finished another walk-a-thon over the weekend. It was a 5k through the city. Our daughter and son-in-law walked with us. The 5k seemed like a breeze in comparison to the half marathon. I was glad it was a short walk as it was getting hot quickly in the sun. I encouraged my husband not to slow down for me and he finished twelve minutes ahead of me. He snapped my picture as I crossed the finish line. Another event to add to our album. We are hoping to participate in some more races before the fall walk with the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society.
Loving summer and enjoying life with my hero husband and spoiled dog Laney.
Life is beautiful !!
Elizabeth
My husband and I were finally able to ride our bicycles on a bike trail through the woods. We were surprised by a deer that was resting by the side of the bike path. The deer was startled by us and took off running into the woods. I wish that I had my camera with me. It would have been a great picture of the deer as it was very close to us. The deer looked so large at the close proximity. I suddenly felt very small. Thank goodness it did not charge at us.
We finished another walk-a-thon over the weekend. It was a 5k through the city. Our daughter and son-in-law walked with us. The 5k seemed like a breeze in comparison to the half marathon. I was glad it was a short walk as it was getting hot quickly in the sun. I encouraged my husband not to slow down for me and he finished twelve minutes ahead of me. He snapped my picture as I crossed the finish line. Another event to add to our album. We are hoping to participate in some more races before the fall walk with the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society.
Loving summer and enjoying life with my hero husband and spoiled dog Laney.
Life is beautiful !!
Elizabeth
Saturday, July 6, 2013
Rain And Rain And....
It has been raining for so long now that I have lost track of the days. This is the rainiest summer we have had in years. It seems as if the rain clouds keep circling around us. The grass is getting tall as the rain has not stopped long enough for us to mow it. My flowers are getting huge and are loaded with beautiful blooms. I think mother nature is making up for the drought we had last summer. Laney does not like the rain and the thunder and lightening scares her.
I hope the rain will slow down soon, as we have not been able to get outdoors to do much. The sun peeps through the clouds every once in awhile for brief moments. I am waiting for some nice days to enjoy being outdoors. The summer seems to be slipping away. The thought of winter keeps creeping into my head. It seems as if fall is here as the temperatures are even below normal.
I keep thinking that somewhere over the rainbow there is a sunny day with a garden of beautiful flowers.
Life is beautiful !!
Elizabeth
I hope the rain will slow down soon, as we have not been able to get outdoors to do much. The sun peeps through the clouds every once in awhile for brief moments. I am waiting for some nice days to enjoy being outdoors. The summer seems to be slipping away. The thought of winter keeps creeping into my head. It seems as if fall is here as the temperatures are even below normal.
I keep thinking that somewhere over the rainbow there is a sunny day with a garden of beautiful flowers.
Life is beautiful !!
Elizabeth
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